tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8801406112245999994.post1471380763398970805..comments2023-05-31T05:10:36.951-07:00Comments on Whatsoever things are lovely...: Do You Ever Feel this Way?Deborahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12002468510668438210noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8801406112245999994.post-32137603116906686232013-03-08T19:16:50.318-08:002013-03-08T19:16:50.318-08:00Okay (deep breath) I'm not the only one, thank...Okay (deep breath) I'm not the only one, thank goodness! Thank you ladies for being vulnerable enough to tell me about you're conversational insecurities; and share your insights. <br /> Joanne, I can't imagine you having a 'tone' that puts people off. Maybe it's just a 'daughter thing.'<br />Jack, I know personally that you are a great communicator!<br />Farmlady.Deborahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12002468510668438210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8801406112245999994.post-40368739903083001032013-03-08T09:13:11.567-08:002013-03-08T09:13:11.567-08:00I'm not a very verbal person so I rarely feel ...I'm not a very verbal person so I rarely feel that I've said too much... but there have been times when I definitely said too much about something and hurt someones feelings. Words can be like knives and have a huge impact. I, now, try to think first about what I'm trying to say... sometimes it's not even necessary to say something... sometimes a quiet nod or smile is all that'farmladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10516462251842458511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8801406112245999994.post-546620673893698702013-03-08T07:34:11.529-08:002013-03-08T07:34:11.529-08:00In one-on-one conversations, this isn't genera...In one-on-one conversations, this isn't generally a problem for me, because I'm a good listener. What I have to watch is in a larger group setting, like in a club meeting or classroom setting. It is very difficult for me to take a "sit-down-and-shut-up" back row seat in those situations, because I'm more comfortable being up front in a leadership position. When the leader Susan Flett Swiderskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09425315552148200073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8801406112245999994.post-10550247097603068882013-03-08T07:15:53.158-08:002013-03-08T07:15:53.158-08:00Because I am home alone so much during the day (th...Because I am home alone so much during the day (thank goodness for the computer), I find that when I go to the store I just talk away and then think, dang, why did I do that?<br /><br />I'm over here from Becky's blog, and really enjoy yours.<br /><br />Kathy M.Oregon Gifts of Comfort and Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07171271956883698673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8801406112245999994.post-80722125448079048472013-03-08T05:54:10.682-08:002013-03-08T05:54:10.682-08:00I hear ya. After a Bible study leader suggested I...I hear ya. After a Bible study leader suggested I chimed in too much in discussions I now count others comments and keep mine down to three sentences. <br />A year earlier a boss told me I was too quiet and stand offish. Trying to figure out the "just right"!Thoughts on Life and Millinery.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15826496514403918108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8801406112245999994.post-49461083248533146972013-03-08T03:25:40.628-08:002013-03-08T03:25:40.628-08:00I earned this isn a communications class. When in ...I earned this isn a communications class. When in conversation we are doing three things: 1. speaking, <br />2. evaluating ourselves wondering whether we are overspeaking/how we're coming across, 3. we are evaluating the other person's reaction to assess how we are being perceived. Much of this is subconscious...and people who are perceptive and aware are more likely to engage in this andLinda O'Connellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15982895073903619018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8801406112245999994.post-32076328764441557422013-03-07T23:23:33.663-08:002013-03-07T23:23:33.663-08:00You aren't the only one. I do it all the time...You aren't the only one. I do it all the time, especially when I struggle with getting my message across. Mentally, I dissect the conversation into little bits to see where I can change my word choice, if I was too passive or aggressive, if I read the other person's non-verbal cues correctly, etc. It's how I learn to be a better communicator.Jack McCallumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16386671124054537732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8801406112245999994.post-36294804744051719992013-03-07T21:17:04.169-08:002013-03-07T21:17:04.169-08:00it never fails, at the end of the day before I fal...it never fails, at the end of the day before I fall asleep, I go through every conversation I've had during the day. Did I talk too long? Was I sincere? was I rude? My daughter says I have a 'tone' that turns people off and I have become so self conscious about it that it is on my mind all.the.time.joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12112607125596693550noreply@blogger.com